Bondage fascinates many people. Whether you think it's sexy, or creepy or even criminal, you definitely have an opintion about bondage. Before you make up your mind out of hand, you should know just a little bit more about it.
This article defines bondage and introduces some "light" bondage techniques that everyone can incorporate into their sex play.
What is bondage?
Bondage is defined as:
- the state of being under the control of another person
- sexual practice that involves physically restraining (by cords or handcuffs) one of the partners
This definition captures the two main ideas -- control and physical restraints. Bondage requires one partner to become the dominant (the binder) and the other to become the submissive or slave (the bound). The partners enjoy playing these roles and derive sexual excitement from them.
Note that this is not the same as S&M, sadism and masochism, which involves inflicting pain (though bondage is the B in the oft-seen acronym BDSM).
Props, from the simple to the elaborate, are often used. Black leather, latex, ropes and handcuffs give bondage an appropriately Goth look.
For some who are deeply involved in bondage, the dominant and the submissive roles go outside the bedroom. But for most people, bondage is like any other form of role playing and only lasts until the sexual encounter is over.
Bondage props
Light bondage can be engaged in using things you already have laying around the house. Silk scarves or neck ties make excellent restraints and blindfolds. A little bit of creativity goes a long way here.
A wide variety of bondage cuffs is available, along with other restraints, at resonable prices.
Bondage Safety
First, you and your partner should settle on a "safe word" so either of you can stop the bondage play at any time. This is a vital safety measure and also helps make the more tentative braver and more willing to participate. If the bound partner is also gagged, you must also establish an action that will function as a safe word.
Don't stay in bindings too long. Make sure you can always slip a finger or two under any bindings. After an hour in bonds, a healthy person's body begins to have trouble supplying blood and they should be removed. Also remove the bonds if they cause shooting or focused pain.
Never engage in bondage play when under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Never put any pressure on the front of the neck to avoid the dangers of strangulation.
Never leave a bound person alone.
Have a pair of surgeon's scissors or EMT scissors handy just in case you need to release the bound partner immediately.
Bondage techniques
Keep these two important concepts in mind: restraint and control.
The dominant partner's duty is to restrain the submissive partner and give orders. There is no pain involved (that's S&M). Here are some ideas:
1. The dominant partner blindfolds the submissive partner then undresses her. After tying her to the bedpost, he then engages in oral sex and vaginal sex. The excitement in this scenario is the sense of control the cominant partner has, and the sense of helplessness and surprise experienced by the submissive partner.
2. The dominant partner orders the submissive to undress, then binds her hands behind her back. Then the dominant partner orders the submissive to perform any sexual acts he wants. Again, the dominant partner takes control for the couple.
There are as many bondage scenarios as there are couples. So use your imagination -- but keep our bondage safety tips in mind!
Top rated 
Increase your sex appeal and 
